3 Toxic☠️Myths You Believe About Positivity & Parenting
I used to run myself to the ground taking care of my immediate family and extended family. I said YES to any request no matter how much I didn’t want to do it. Oh you need a babysitter…yes. You need to borrow money….yes. You need a ride….yes.
I barely used my vacation days. I NEVER set foot inside a spa. And just getting a pedicure a few times a year caused me so much guilt.
Being the Yes-woman to everyone in my life made me a not-so-good mom. I was tired. I had no patience. I was mean. I yelled a lot.
Once I started to prioritize my self-care, make time for myself and say “no” more often than “yes,” things began to change.
Taking care of yourself is so important for your family. You need that time and I have written about self-care a lot because of how important I believe it is.
Your mental health is important. You matter. Please take time for yourself!
Myth #2: To be a good mom/person/human being you have to have a positive attitude ALL THE TIME.
There is no way you have a positive attitude 24/7. Life just doesn’t work like that.
Believe it or not, negative feelings have their place in our lives. It is perfectly natural and healthy to have a wide range of emotions. In fact, suppressing negative emotions can be dangerous to our health.
What you learn through positive thinking is this: you can accept negative emotions, know they will pass and see the other side of situations without allowing the negativity to take hold of your life.
Myth #3: Positive thinking is a cure all and your life will be better forever and ever amen.
Positive thinking is not a cure all.
What positive thinking does is help you rise above negative situations and supports you so you can reframe negative situations and find useful and energetic solutions.
Positiive thinking is a tool. You need to take action and use it to see serious (and positive) changes in your life.
Why is believing in these 3 myths problematic?
Because believing in these 3 myths will cripple you from taking the right action. Your confidence gets affected, you don’t seek guidance, and subsequently, you don’t transform your life as a result.
As a mom who has researched positivity relentlessly, I have noticed breakthrough after breakthrough in my own life. I know it seems difficult but it doesn’t have to be. People just don’t have the right guidance when it comes to applying positivity measures into daily life.
They search for stuff online fruitlessly, and when that doesn’t work, they give up. Then, they blame it on themselves, thinking they are not good or smart enough.
But really, It’s about learning the right strategies and putting in the work.
So take heart. You can do this! Don’t for a second doubt yourself.